Wanting an answer to the question “Am I normal?” propels a lot of people to walk into my office. It’s my favorite question in the world to answer because the majority of the time I can respond with, “Yeah, pretty much as normal as the next guy,” and you can literally watch the anxiety melt off people’s faces. Seeing that sigh of relief is unquestionably one of the most awesome things about my job. I’ve also learned that whether or not we are “normal” is not a particularly useful question. The important thing to ask ourselves is whether or not there are any negative consequences to what we perceive to be “abnormal”.
We can all sometimes over-react to a relatively minor worry. Assigning a numeric rating to what is bothering you is a simple technique that you can use to more quickly let go of the small stuff and better devote your time and energy to focusing on what’s really important. This is a brief, in the […]
Dear Super-Mom, Stop living in a delusion. Climb out of your bat-mobile (okay minivan) and take off the costume ( you know, the one that masks your exhaustion, resentment, and anxiety). You aren’t saving Gotham from the grips of an evil villain. The only villain in this story is the one inside your head, the voice that tells […]
Choosing to forgive does not make a wrong right. It doesn’t imply a lack of accountability or require an apology from others. Forgiveness is simply a decision to no longer allow that wrong to have too much power over your life. It is refusing to give your grievances too much space in your brain, […]
Everyone I know is “too busy.” It’s become a badge of honor, a bragging right, to complain endlessly about how busy we are. And we are busy. We have become so busy that we are stressed, unhappy, and at times physically ill. Instead of feeling energized about our life we are completely exhausted. We are […]