Wanting an answer to the question “Am I normal?” propels a lot of people to walk into my office. It’s my favorite question in the world to answer because the majority of the time I can respond with, “Yeah, pretty much as normal as the next guy,” and you can literally watch the anxiety melt off people’s faces. Seeing that sigh of relief is unquestionably one of the most awesome things about my job. I’ve also learned that whether or not we are “normal” is not a particularly useful question. The important thing to ask ourselves is whether or not there are any negative consequences to what we perceive to be “abnormal”.
We all have our own brand of weird. Yes, you are weird. And you know what? So am I. We all are. People ask me all the time if they are normal. After almost two decades in the mental health field I can tell you that I have no idea what normal means. More importantly […]
Our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors don’t exist in a vacuum. We are continually and deeply influenced by those around us, and in turn what we do has a significant impact on others. Nowhere is this impact felt as strongly as it is within our own family.
Therapists are far more than simple keepers of stories. Through their influence they have the power to re-write them – past, present, and future. This requires a tremendous responsibility; a therapist can do either damage or good. A good therapist does not write your story for you or edit with too heavy of a […]
This post is for anyone who is considering counseling but has yet to reach out and ask for support. It’s not always an easy thing to do, and hopefully the comments below can help make the decision easier. Research suggests that the average person struggles with a problem for months or even years before they […]