I am pleased to announce that in order to provide more flexibility for my clients, I have added telephonic counseling as an available service. An initial in-person evaluation is required, and this method of counseling may or may not be appropriate depending upon the particular issues you would like to address. Please contact me for more information.
Improving Intimacy Couples Workshop is being held Saturday, April 22nd from 9 – 12 p.m. Couples will learn new insights and tools for solving conflict and fostering a closer and more satisfying emotional and physical connection. Please contact me for more information.
When couples are in conflict they become collectors of grievances. No perceived slight or error is given a free pass. The more we keep score of our partner’s mistakes the longer we become entrenched in a seemingly endless cycle of anger, resentment, and disengagement. Here are some suggestions to break the pattern.
Healthy relationships may sometimes be hard, but they’re not all that complicated. It’s a fundamental distinction that is easy to miss. Hard implies the necessity of effort, which positive and sustainable relationships unquestionably require, but “complicated” essentially means that the relationship is difficult to understand. That’s another notion entirely.
People often believe there is something wrong with them when they can’t entirely “get over” an extremely painful situation or loss. While I steadfastly believe that we have the capacity to emerge from these experiences stronger and healthier, the concept that we can somehow “undo” what has happened or arrive at a point in time when the pain permanently dissipates is often a fallacy. We may be able to vastly improve upon how we carry the burden, and reach a place where it no longer negatively dominates our lives, but an integral part of healing is accepting that we are in some way forever altered by what has happened to us.