I read a study suggesting that 50% of moms who look at Pinterest walk away feeling guilty about their “lack of creativity and effort in taking care of their families.” Moms, didn’t we already have enough to feel guilty about without adding images of paper mache projects and homemade pasta? Are we really going to allow social media fantasy-land to make us feel badly about ourselves?
Mommy guilt isn’t new of course, it’s just become much more fashionable and taking place for all the wrong reasons. Too many moms equate guilt to a sign that they care enough about their children. A long time ago moms used to feel guilty mostly about the serious stuff – like not having enough food on the table and needing to pull their kids out of school to help support the family. Unfortunately our generation is different. Those of us who don’t have to struggle with these real problems should consider ourselves lucky, but we don’t. Instead we invent new reasons to feel like we’ve failed as a parent, and according to this Pinterest study they include entirely too many Popsicle sticks and baking dishes. None of these things do anything to reflect your true success, or failure, as a parent.
At the end of the day our two key tasks as a mom boils down to this: 1) Don’t break the kid and 2) Raise them to be a halfway decent human being. If we can accomplish that then in my book we’re ahead of the game.
If we are going to feel guilty about something lets at least feel guilty about the right things, and I don’t think that a lack of art or culinary skills belongs anywhere on that list.