Your body is not your only currency. Your true worth is not determined by your beauty, popularity, or the label on your new handbag. You are inherently valuable. Your value lies in your intelligence, kindness, compassion, and grace.
The boy who you were so devastated about today is someone whose last name you may not even remember tomorrow. You will make some mistakes and have regrets. You won’t get everything that you want. Much of what you want today will have no meaning to you in the future so pause before you give it too much weight. Life is anything but fair so stop expecting it to be. Learn from your experiences because they will make you who you are going to be; stronger, more thoughtful, capable.
Competency is an antidote to low self-worth. Figure out what you are good at, and learn how to be even better. Believe in your ability and cultivate your gifts. I assure you that with the right amount of hard work you will exceed even your own expectations. If others doubted you, prove them wrong.
Embrace who you are without the need for validation from others. Reject the voices that suggest that you aren’t good enough. Replace shame and guilt with self-forgiveness and accountability. Have the confidence to say no when you mean no and yes when you mean yes. Choose the path that you lead.
Listen to the wisdom of the women who have gone before you. Pay attention to the lessons that they have to teach you. Many of them remember all to well exactly the place where you are standing today.
Figure out who you want to be and be it. Define your own life. Do not allow your parents, friends, or a man to define it for you.
You are competent and able, you just have to believe in it.